师父你已然佛罗伦萨的干活了么，怎么又没输入法了:)
其实你也是不只跟我说了一天两天，该好好想想自己到底想要什么了。当然不止钱那么简单，但是呢，它的确是重要因素，它决定上层建筑。安全感是第一位。等有了它才发现，哎呀还不够，我还得要其他的，比如说我渐渐地发现了工作的快乐（我一直怀疑我有工作狂的）。
这时候，原来建筑在钱上头的目的，娱乐啊享受啊什么的，就变得只成了目的之一，也很重要，但不是唯一重要的，并驾齐驱的是工作的享受，对recognition的追求和自我实现。
这个东西是没有止境的，但不会是一根弦绷着，得有起伏，这样就需要自我激励啦。或者那个深层一点的动机就是对这种激励的需要，陶醉在进步感中的感觉（并不一定是真的进步了）——说到这里，我突然发现还是一个安全感的问题。为什么要进步？因为世界在变化，在发展，人不进则退，但为什么一定要跟上、跑在前头？因为怕掉队，对偏离主流有恐惧。为什么会恐惧？不安全啊！
但是为什么呢？这是往回推的问题。同时还有一个往前推的问题，怎样才是够？目前无解。
另外你说“and have seen others been there”是什么意思？你知道我的E文糟糕:wink:
比如说我渐渐地发现了工作的快乐
As long as you enjoy it, that's totally fine. Work, play, play when working, work when playing. If you are happy doing it and manage not ti kill yourself, I say go for it, but don't take it too seriously. Setbacks are not the end of the world. Don't think about what you COULD be doing, but what you ARE doing. (Yeah, right. Easy for me to say.)
I'm at a friend's house and thus no Chinese input.
I know a person who spends her whole life pursuing an elusive goal (ever more money in the bank account), mistaking it for happiness and safety. There is no joy in her life, not even the rising numbers. A life is thoroughly wasted this way. I might write a story one day based on her life.
working hard, play hard. life is too short to waste.
“Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth.”
barb，time to play 啦，大日子就要来liao3
领命liao3，拼命收拾箱子中:P
师父的话我很认同，“A life is thoroughly wasted this way”，但是84有国情的问题么，下层基础决定上层建筑啊。不过我的确也想开了，如果接了新的offer，俺得重新做人，重拟世界观:)
吼吼, 我不是联想到你的工作狂倾向啊, 说起来我自己也有点在乎工作的呢, 虽然拼命劝别人吃喝玩乐... :D 我是这两天在想那个人的一生如何浪费在obsession里面, 没享受过, 不知道什么是无忧无虑的快乐, 有所感慨.
师父，我还是接了那个offer，奔向新生活的干活:D
恭喜恭喜. :D 奔向新生活.
自我激励, barb has been talking about this for days. I just want to leave you a note: Think about what it is that you are pursuing, and why. Sometimes it seems simple and needs no explanation, but it rarely is simple and often has an explanation deep down. Money, one says, who isn't after money? Isn't that as natural as breathing? But it's never that simple. I know because I've been there and done that, and have seen others been there.